Divorced and want to fix it

[Trixi]

Hey Irish-
Well, I don't remember where I read this, but someone posted that when we are so used to not getting anything, a crumb will seem like a feast. I keep mulling this over because I feel like if my H didn't give me crumbs here and there, I would be long gone.

Alas, my poor memory, I can't remember if I posted the following either- but with that--I was telling my counselor awhile back that sometimes I feel very strong because I am still standing, and at other times I feel very weak...because I am still standing. He said it back to me like this "You are strong when it comes to withstanding abuse, but weak when it comes to walking away." ouch. (Keep in mind, the "abuse" is just that my H is waffling.)

I have to wonder in your case if it's a good time to "go gucci". Have you been on any dates? If so, did your XH know? If so, how did he respond? Maybe I shouldn't say "dates". More like chillin' with a new guy friend.