Thanks Indy. Unfortunately, it's too late. My family has taken things I've said, trying to explain W's perspective, and now has the opinion that she's emotionally unstable, an unfit mother, etc. and that I'm enabling her. I'm accomodating her "sick and stagnant" fantasy. If I object my sister says, "you're still defending her." Honestly, my family has never liked my wife very much. There's always been weirdness there. Now I feel like my family is going to write me off as being a complete idiot, not doing what I need to for my boys, etc.
My sister said, I'm the strong one - I'm the stable one - is W going to be able to be alone? What kind of people is she going to introduce into the boys' lives?
I guess I should have kept my mouth shut.
So - this morning was interesting. I wasn't feeling so well. W came out, asked if she could make breakfast, how I wanted my eggs, etc. At one point she came over and started rubbing my side vigorously. I mumbled something, and she stopped and said, "No?" I said, no, just, how are you doing?
She continued to be really chatted, I didn't say much. Then when I was taking a shower, she asked if she could come in and get ready. Kept chatting, I kept saying "What?" over the shower. So after awhile, she said, I'm sorry, I just miss you. So I opened the door, looked at her and said, "What do you want from me?"
So, I'm being distant, she's pursuing, or something like it.
I'm taking the boys to the in-laws - think I'm fighting a cold, so seemed like a good idea. I've spent a looot of time, weekends and so on, with the boys lately, so I'm OK with it. So this weekend will be the first time that I've really been alone.
So, I guess time to GAL. Call up my buddy. Just go out and read a book in a coffee shop. Maybe I'll buy some new clothes or something. Need to mow the grass.
W asked if she could call me over the weekend, I said sure. She was wearing her ring on her correct hand this morning.
Drop the rope. Let the cat come to you. Right guys? I'm turning around what I'm doing.
