I'm new wondering if this works...

[Energizer Bunny]

breathe. one breath at a time.

I don't think going dark is always the answer. the more you fight him on the separation papers the more it seems to him like you haven't changed. have you talked to a lawyer?

my W has been asking for a sep for months. the more I resister the more she saw me as controlling her. I finally told her that I love her enough to do it for er. if it truly made er happy.

it didn't stop her. she's still planning to go through with it, but it may have showed the change bigger than anthing else I could have done.

talk to a lawyer. give him the sep.
he's telling you exactly what he wants. can you do it?

you're almost guaranteed not to get him back if you don't.