My opinion on this is yes, they all do at some point. That doesn't mean that we sit and wait for that. We can be patient, and have faith, and be open to this happening when it does. But we do not and cannot waste away on our knees praying and hoping for that to happen. We still have lives of our own that need to be lived.
The ultimate power lies with God in this, but he also helps those who help themselves.
I know there are people here who will disagree with me, but at some point in every persons life, there is a reflection.
Not all are strong enough to admit that they were wrong, or that they would like to try anymore, but that doesn't mean that they stay in this tunnel forever.
Not all LBS'ers are strong enough to love our whacked out spouses until the end. A lot of it hinges on pride, for both parties involved. A lot hinges on Faith, and what we choose to believe, who does the best selling job on what is right for us.
Standing is just as individual to us, as a MLC is to our spouse, no two are the same.
Standing is a very individual decision that we all have made. Understanding what is happening around us is vital to our support if that is what we choose.
Standing is a very fine line to walk. Finding that balance between standing, letting them go, and telling them to F-off forever.
Nothing you do right now will attract him home, although EVERYTHING you do right now will draw him home.
Make sense ?
That is why it is vital for you to stand by your actions, not your words. Make choices that reflect what you want, and let go of your attatchment to the old relationship.
Be the best person you can be for today, and tomorrow, think of an excuse to do better.
