A New Decade - Part 2

[MsMelancoly]

Well just a quick update here. So I decided to email my xh today (his work email). I get a response back saying xxx no longer works here!! What?!?! So I called his cell phone & left a message saying his email bounced back & said he no longer works there & was wondering if that was true. If so, I was sorry to hear & to call me back if he wanted to talk. I get home & there's a message on my machine from him apologizing for not telling me & that he is working on putting his life back together.

Wow!!! 1. He apologized for not telling me. He doesn't really have any obligation to tell me - strange. 2. Can anyone say Karma? 3. I just avoided a huge possibility of being responsible for his debts!

I feel so bad for him. Yet, the oddest thing is ..... is he was always luckiest with me. (Meaning he had good luck - not bad when with me). Although, life was probably pretty boring with me, no living on the edge & struggling, no drama. And for 40 years that's all he has known.

[MsMelancoly]

So the phone plague might be subsiding a bit. Symptoms of this mysterious illness called phone plague include the aversion of the WAH not calling or answering the telephone. The recovery period from this has not yet been determined. Yet, you will know when this plagues death grip has lifted, because your WAH will answer his phone. If he happens to call you .... he has fully recovered from the black death plague of the 21st century named Phone Plague .... (ah, ah ah)

[MichelleLT]

ROTFLMAO. Nice.

And great positives in the top post!

Some people just don't know how to live without the drama. My roommate is like that.

[MsMelancoly]

It seems this phone plague which also is in cahoots with the other plague here - known as the fog plague, may have subdided a bit for my xh.

I found out this morning at work that our new Exec Director needs some help moving & will pay family & friends. So I decided to call my xh to see if he wanted some extra cash. Surprise, surprise he answered his phone!! I mention about this little 4 hr job, but my xh will be visiting his mum & family this weekend. I also mentioned about maybe doing some work on my house. Which he will consider. I also joked that he could be my butler (you know have dinner & a drink waiting for me when I get home). We had a very nice chat & joked a bit. It seems the new boss doesn't like the owners son (who is my xh BF) - so my xh thinks this may have cost him his job. Hhhhhmmmm, wonder who, who told him this, oh, 2 years ago (not to mix work & personal life)??? Yep, that's right - me. My xh admitted that I was right & we joked about it a bit. He also said that his former place of employment had been making him angry & depressed for sometime & in some ways he was glad to be gone from there. His other friend/landlord told him if they ask you back to work - don't take it. I told my xh, you have to take it or your unemployment gets nixed. He thanked me for telling him & for telling him about the new Cobra health law. My xh a pretty devoted republican, actually said he was glad the democrats were in power. I joked - who am I talking to???? I probably shouldn't have - but said to him that maybe in these past years he has learned some lessons. I said that I had & even though I didn't like all the lessons - that I hoped I would grow from them. Damn - why did I say that - oh well the convo moved on.

He then starting joking about having to go into his retirement plan early. You see, his retirement plan - my idea - was that he would have to be a stripper (cuz - he really has no retirement $$). I told him maybe he should do some research on it - no - he said I should do some research on it. Hhhmmm - now that's an idea. Anyway the convo went to him talking about a MF of mine/ours that he didn't like, was annoyed by - just pre-bomb. Now my xh, says he kinda misses this MF & if I see him to tell him hello. Ok, this is Totally our of character for my xh - to connect with my/our friends. My xh also made some sort of comment about me not inviting him & other friends over. (Now, i've been thrown for loop #2)!

Hhhhmmm ..... maybe this loss of job - has led him to evaluate all aspects of his life. One can only hope.

[MichelleLT]

Wow.

I feel like I just came off a roller coaster! I'm dizzy!

[JCJ]

Way to go MsM. Great job! Loving that the phone plague is lifting (RMAO re your post! ). Let's hope he makes some positive changes!

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Michelle, I guess, I tend to ramble & go all over the place sometimes when posting. Hope your motion sickness is over!

Thanks Julia. Yes, I do hope he makes some positive changes from all this & really reflects on the past 2 years & the choices he made. He has been quite mopy & depressed when we have gotten together, not the person I used to know. So we shall see.

[MichelleLT]

LMAO. I wasn't even talking about you, but about your H! He doesn't know which way is coming or going some days! LOL.

I sincerely hope that he is at the "bottom" of his issues and can start working his way back to being a happy and balanced person!

[JCJ]

Just saying hi MsM

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Julia, hey Michelle. All is pretty quiet with me, as usual

A strange thing happened yesterday my xh SIL called my house. It seems she still has my # as xh home #. She called last year at this time too. The very odd thing is, yesterday it was 2 years to the date that xh dropped the bomb & left & 3 months to the day of our D. We had a nice short chat. Was nice of her to tell me she liked me. Anyway, what she was calling about was to find out if my xh, still wanted some stuff stored at her store that she sold. I suppose it's been there for 10 years or so. She also asked if there was a portfolio of one of xh old GF at my house. Said I didn't know. Strange, because this old GF, my xh only described as a friend, never an old GF.

Oh well. I did quite a bit of thinking yesterday & have decided that it is really time for me to move on. A leopard will never change it's spots & that's what my xh is. If, if, he wants any type of R, he will have to work at it - not me.

So, I will begin the process of moving his things to his house. I cannot move on with all his things here. He will not stick me with all of his clutter & he will not run away from it either. He did say he would help, yet I have seen very little effort. So not out of character for him.

I only have one life & best starting living it!