The cabin is now a place of sadness for me because it's where he told me he wanted to live alone and "be true to himself." It's where he said he wasn't happy and wasn't sure he wanted to be married anymore. It's where the "bomb" was dropped and where the madness began. It's a 2 hour drive up there and I'm not in great condition to be driving around. Also, he always did the maintenance things (turning on the water, firing up the oven, etc.) and I didn't pay attention and learn how to do those things, so I wouldn't know where/how to begin.
He also took all of the kitchen supplies, all the food, all the towels, etc. to furnish his "bachelor pad."
We both cried a lot last night...but for him, I just think he wants this all over with. I wanted to give it a shot. I told him anything worth having takes hard work...no reply.
Very sad today....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10