Listen, the words "don't want to answer to anyone" were spewed at me several times as well. Guess what, I stopped asking. I stopped wondering. I stopped caring to a degree. A year later, I know where he is going, who he is talking to, what he is buying, and a whole bunch more stuff I may not want to know. So much for not wanting to answer to anyone huh?
I too was wondering why you aren't at the cabin. It takes time, but you have to force yourself at the beginning. Then it becomes more natural. You are still looking for the quick fix and this takes so much time. So much patience. So much stuff that you might not even realize yet. But you have it within you to survive and thrive. What will happen down the road is not written yet. The past is the past. But today can be what YOU make it.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox