Letting my H work on his stuff ON HIS OWN also has helped our sitch too.
Certainly I see a lot of behavior modeled during childhood has contributed to both my issues and Hs stuff. Trouble making choices is a family thing for him, running a solution too. My main issues I needed to work on were taught from my parents. I did quite a bit of work to identify and work on them before hooking up with H as my childhood was also not standard (understand dependence issues there!). So this year I had a check list in place to start my "me" work from.
H and I have not had any "talks" of any sort for over three months now. How long you guys? I would like him to come to me when he is ready, but I do wonder at times if I should let him know the door is open if he would like to talk. He did say the other day "we don't talk anymore"
