Fallgirl just go for it, as long as you meet in a safe place away from home, I belong to a horse forum and have now met lots of friends via this.. We do girlie lunches and meet up at big horse events, its great fun. My H used to think I was mad as in the beginning I didnt know some of their real names and would say "H Im off to Surfgirl" I met her last week again in passing at a dressage comp and do you know I still dont know her real name as I just call her Surfy. As long as you play safe get out there and have fun.
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I checked out those lists. Don't want to say no clue but not totally sure which one is either of you. Lots of names I do recognize though but I'm not on any of those specific friends lists. Mach, I think I have an idea which one you are, boy the irony if I'm right, but I didn't think you were in Tennessee if Disney is only a 5 hour drive.
Hey I though you were going to the Big Apple this weekend?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Ok not who I thought. That would have been too wierd.
Found out something really interesting, even with all of my security, my H's family have shown up on my page with all sorts of friend requests. And some of his other friends. Yes they may have just searched our email addy but none of these people were there for over a year in the past so I am considering a new page, different name, etc...
Gotta get the kid up to drive the old mom to Lowe's. Was only going to spend about 50 but H has added to my list so I think I'm gonna go broke at the hardeware store. That's ok it's one of my favorite places. Have I ever said I was suppossed to be a boy? Oh well, I guess parents get what God gives them and then they try to make us into what they want. So I'm off to have some fun shopping and then building. Wish I could get this excited over a pair of shoes. LOL
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Well, just spend almost 300 at Lowe's. Now I have to do work uggh. Just kidding. I actually could have spent much more as they finally have what I wanted to use in the bathroom but I need to tackle one project at a time.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Hi TIF, hope you are doing well, have been wondering.
Did I get my projects done? That is sort of a joke around here. I'm great at planning projects, starting them, but completing, always seems to take longer than I thought. But yes they are coming along. Saturday after the store, S got invited out for a concert at the last minute so I let him go. Which caused a delay cuz I needed him to mow the yard first. Then Sunday we were doing great, UNTIL we came in and the fridge was broken. So spent an hour moving all food into deep freeze and other small fridge. Had the repair guy out yesterday. But that sort of took the wind out of my sails and I just needed a down day.
Spent yesterday flopping around in the pool with H and S. It was a nice day. I am now sunburned. But it was worth it. I learned a ton of stuff yesterday. I listened. I validated. I laughed, showed appreciation, and asked nonconfontational questions. It was very interesting.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Interesting in the terms of seeing who he is thinking about, and what part of his past he has been revisiting. A few weeks ago, it was all about pre twelve stuff. Now we are looking at 15-17 years. And how he changed during that time. Also what he wants to teach S, the lessons he wants him to learn and maybe why S has not learned some of those things yet. As wonderful and loving parents as we have been, we have not always been the best role models (ie actions following the words).
In between these windows of opportunity there was some replay spending.
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"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
c, Sounds like your h is reliving his youth through his son. Yes, the revisiting is quite interesting and if you sit quietly and listen while he's talking to your son, you must might glimpse some of what he missed during those formative years. You may even be able to figure out what or who stunted his emotional growth during that time.
You sound good.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Did you get your home project(s) done?