It is so sad. Not much you can do though. In the first year my D won a major award at school. H was not there. I was devastated for my D. It took me a long time to realise that I couldn't repair the relationship and it was up to him. i made excuses for him and always pointed out his positive, loving and generous traits but at one time he even accused me of trying to turn the kids against him. He didn't need any help from me!!
Now, I have promised myself to keep out of it. I said nothing over his recent moving day but I felt disgusted by it. He has to answer to the kids and they know how he makes them feel. Like your D my kids are well adjusted and they can make their own decisions. In fact they have a better handle on this than I do
