Nell, you won't get signs from H. I know in our dreams we think H will call and say he's made a terrible mistake and that he's on his way home. Reality check.....it ain't gonna happen that way; we only get that at the cinema. Any movement is oh so gradual because H is super cautious for a whole host of reasons.
Instead you need to get the feedback from you. As you move further and further into control you'll have less need for H's affirmation and be happy with your progress. This is it Nell, this is life and we can't put it on hold just because our H's walked out the door. If you want to move....just do it! The bonus for you is that there is nothing holding you in a set location. You could work all across Australia. What a wonderful opportunity. At least you have a friend in Vic and another in QLD.
I'm staying put for now because of my kids and the fact that the location I really want to move to is further from schools and sports and not on the bus run. Realistically I can't manage that. Additionally it may not be in my financial interests at present. But let me tell you, I am on realestate.com all the time so that when the time is right I'll know the prices and I'll be ready to jump into action.
As a solo you can get a fairly small place to start and the division of assets right now would be in your favour as you don't work. The burden of looking after that place and managing the finances surely must be a great incentive to look elsewhere!
The value of db is we can have our thinking challenged by others. It's good for us all to think outside the square
