BM, have you made it past the 'good friend' stage with your H?
If 'best friend' is past the stage of 'good friend', then I guess I have. There is no intimacy, but there is caring. He does care deeply about me, and the struggle with my health. He is very sympathetic and does all he can to make life easier for me. There was no romantic epiphany when we found out about the tumour ---- no "omigod, you could die, and I love you so much". By then, I had already accepted our R for what it was.
Sometimes, I wonder if I should've left 5 years ago when I discovered the EA. Perhaps, I might've had more passion and excitement in my life by now, rather than this constant reminder of what might've been. But, I am satisfied with my choice now. I spent at least 3 years waiting and hoping for some change, but eventually in the last 2 years I found acceptance and a measure of happiness within myself. I just take things as they are. We are family no matter what.
Our sitches are different really, except we have stuck to it for five years.
Love that quote --- I think I heard Dr. Phil say it.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim