I'm new wondering if this works...

[BigJohn]

H4L
When we tell you to do things for you, we mean you have to do everything FOR YOU, including your changes.

Here's why....if you are making positive changes for him, you're going to be disappointed when he doesn't seem to care or notice. If you are making positive changes for you, and you like them, then alls good. You are putting way too much into his reactions to everything.

Here's the new attitude that's carried me a very long way, prepared me.....I am the prize. Truly I am. I have made great changes that STRONGER likes and if H will benefit from my changes good for him. If my coworkers and friends benefit from changes, good for them too. But the changes are for ME.

Back to the prize thing....I'm a good catch. I act like it. I've even told H as much. "You think you can do better than this....well, I doubt it, but that's really your call."

If you act like the prize, you become it. If you act like a confident woman, you become one. If you act like you're falling apart inside, you will.

You, like me, are the prize.

Hope,

I like this post by Stronger- she really hit the nail on the head. This is where you need to get to with your thinking. Once you get there, you are the one with the power- just like Stronger.

Your H- like my W in my sitch- is playing with fire. They have a good thing going with us but right now they are too fogged out to realize it. Felix better get his marbles together before it's too late.

Take care.