We don't communicate well. Even now we don't. I plan on opening up completely on the Retro weekend.
Well, I hope you have some smart people who know what to do to teach you "how" to open up b/c if you can't communicate with her well......how do you plan to suddenly "open up" at the retreat? I know you have good intentions, but if you get there and things don't go like you hoped or she isn't acting very favorable, then you may freeze up and not be able to say a word. Then what? I'm sure the program & counselors will be a big help, but there is just so much they can do....then it will be up to the two of you to open your mouths and start the dang talking!! You don't have a problem talking here and if I were your W and saw you pouring your heart out to strangers and knew you weren't talking to me....I would be ticked to no end. Maybe you need to "think" about what you plan to say when you are there, Orich. Sara can tell you if that is a good idea or not, but I'm concerned that if you just think it will all come tumbling out then... when it doesn't now.....you will be in for a let down. I'm not suggesting that you talk to her before the retreat.....don't do that. I'm saying that you need to be thinking of what you will say when you "open up".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
