UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[Eskimo Nell]

Thanks all for your advice ... Gucci, whilst I hear you and yes, I am a bit panicked, I PROMISE that this is not a ploy. I'm so pleased with my own progress (such as it is) over the past days that I really don't want to talk to H and I am so very determined (even though I have wobbles) not to contact him - I don't want to throw 10 Dark Days down the drain! I can't afford to undo all of my good work - I just need the security of him having paid the bills.

I think that I did over-react a bit yesterday. Therefore, I am resolved to wait until Monday or Tuesday and see if any more money goes in to our joint account. Looking back on the previous months, it seems that he is depositing in two sums - I think that his previous advice was that he has to do that, due to the max daily limit he can move out of his account. For all that he has done/is doing, my H is a good person and as I have explained my position, I don't think that he will let me down on this but I am also not naive enough to think that things are 'normal' right now. I guess that is what made me panic. I have to trust that he will come to the party on certain issues - he's not looking after me right now but I have no reason to believe that he would throw away his own investment, such as the house is. I know that he could not live with creditors chasing him, either!

I'm a bit calmer now ... thank you all for helping me to see sense on this one - it's so good having the security blanket wrap around me when I need it most!