Everyone thinks it's over, and I'm just an idiot. For believing, for persisting, for not kicking her our of the house. for not being mean, for not suing for full custody. For continuing to be friendly.
Is this beyond saving? Am I a fool?
It's not beyond saving and you're not a fool.
I don't think being mean is ever a good thing in my opinion, but on the other hand your being her friend hasn't been working and she continues to file towards divorce. She is clearly not acting as your friend, even though she may talk like she's a friend to you. Look at her actions and not her words.
I think you need to become stronger, more confident, detached. GAL for your kids and don't rub her anymore or comfort her. Let her feel consequences which you have for the most part not done. Help her to realize you still won't provide emotional support or be her best bud and pretend to be an intact family for the kids if you divorce. Karen
