I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow - part 2

[1853dave]

Well, I went to see my DB counselor today - for support and for a little analyzation of what went wrong.

We rehashed a few events, and she still believes that W is ambivalent - like another person said, she's probably not even sure herself of what she wants.

So, the plan is to lay low, not go dark, but back off... Continue with being friendly, but offer nothing more, stay out of the way, don't give her anything negative to grow on (since I mention that she seems to be looking for the negatives in a sea pf positives). I'll let some time go by, and then maybe next week carefully approach...such as with the occasional phone calls just to check up and say 'hi', which were appreciated in the past. I'll have to carefully weigh that. Basically, some non-pressuring contact. No lingering, but keep an eye out for signs of softening. I told her I'd treat it like I was starting over, and the counselor agreed. That might be the safest approach.

She also agreed that the telephone outreach might be the better approach - rather than face to face. She is likely to be more comfortable over the phone, rather than in person.

As of right now, I plan to keep the contacts short and cool this weekend. Nothing more.

Geez, what a life.