The word on the DB street is to read your sitch. I have a WAW, MLC wife, wife that doesn't want to be married, whatever you want to call it. ILYBNILWY.
Says she only married me because her father approved. Started taking antidepressants 5 years ago because her feelings changed for me. Not because of her horrible temper. Says she has been feeling this way for 10 years. Says she is "Done" Go find someone else to make you happy. You picked the wrong person. You will never change. It is me, not you...You never took care of the kids when they were babies..You stopped wanting to go out..You never listened to me.
I have gone through every emotion, made every mistake you can make. Even last saturday(at 3am) when she came home. When she goes out, that is the time she ususally comes home. And the time I usually get angry. Oh, she also wants to wait on divorce till it can be amicable. I said that will never happen. I will resent you to the day I die--why--you never really gave this an opportunity after you dropped the bomb.
So that is a snapshot of my life the past 4 months. I asked my wife to go to Retrouville last Saturday a couple hours after she said she's "done" She said yes. I said you need to have an open mind. She said, "I will"
Today, she tells me that she thinks she is going out saturday. I said great, I will make plans with the kids. She said why don't you just stay home. I said no, I need to do fun things with the kids. Especially during these times. I am going out the next three weekends to family and friend events. She has declined. She has essentially divorce my friends and family because they have "judged her" She has lost most of her friends through this. We had a pretty tight group of about 14 families. They all are looking down on her--she cries on my shoulder because she feels she is wearing a scarlet letter...
Anyway, today she tells me she always feels anxiety and tense when I am around at night(when kids are in bed). I said that I hardly am around you lately at night. She said that knows. She just can't help it- she is hoping the new therapist helps(last one was steering her to divorce). She also got a job a couple days a week. Hope that helps with her direction. She has such a wall built up around her, nothing can penetrate it. I did ask why are you going to retrouville, she said that she wants to see if there is anything left--I will take what I will get at this time...I go on Oct. 23rd. Same bed there--Right now I sleep on couch. I just can't sleep in same bed with her. Stay awake all night if I am sleeping with her..
Remarried 6 mo S 12 S 13 S 16 SD 12 SD 16 SD 17 SS 19
