The minute I accepted my divorce 14 months ago and was FINE with it, the dynamics in my R with stbx changed. I had a clear picture of what had happened, was aware of my ...surroundings and was living a good life. My kids -as always the barometer of my state- were having a great summer. When I asked for the divorce, my stbxh's "eyes" returned. Funny how that works over and over again...
