The minute I accepted my divorce 14 months ago and was FINE with it, the dynamics in my R with stbx changed. I had a clear picture of what had happened, was aware of my ...surroundings and was living a good life. My kids -as always the barometer of my state- were having a great summer. When I asked for the divorce, my stbxh's "eyes" returned. Funny how that works over and over again...
H has the kids all weekend and then wants us to drive him to the airport. Part of me feels, "no, sorry, I'm not that person anymore"...and part of me knows the kids will enjoy sending him off (they've expressed wanting to take him though I think it would not be a big deal to say goodbye and hour sooner)...
Well, if your airport is anything like my airport post 9/11, there's precious little "sending off" to be done. It's not like you can hang out at the gate until they get on the plane. More a matter of being together in the car, yes?
So .... does that trump serious inconvenience for you?
(Related thought .. I just realized, in planning for a vacation, that aside from my parents, I don't feel comfortable asking anyone who lives close to me to drop us off at the train station. This tells me I need to make some new friends locally, since all our other close friends have moved away. This could be a similar wake-up call for h.; because of his choices, you are no longer a viable taxi service. Something to think about.)
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
Ya, I told him to find another way. My undetached self cares that he will not see it as a natural consequence but as me messing with him. My detached, healthy self knows I need to do what works for me and his ridiculous expectations are not my problem.
Do you feel like spending time with him or not? If not, then I would say no. If you do, then are you asking because you would like to see how hard he will persue? If so, then I would say no. If you would like to test that little window of hope that you keep talking about, then maybe. But I would then defer to the experts.
