Wow, cantbreathe. Your husband sounds just like mine and you sound like me, only stronger. The situations are even somewhat similar. I've been even more weapy and emotional. I'm going to watch your posts and try to follow your example.

2009 info:
Me: 35
H: 37
M: 16/T: 18
D: 15
EA: 5-11-09 to 8-09

My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1832210#Post1832210