The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

I maybe putting the cart before the horse here, but probably not. There is something AFWAW need to puzzle on at some point. SP brought this point up a few months ago, one of those things he puzzled until his puzzler broke, or something like that. That is there are lots of hand wringing here about the W becoming a WAW because the husband was not man enough (I say yes in a lot of cases)? The puzzle part goes something like this; did this marriage break down because WAW was not women enough?

AFWAW you need to ask yourself that. While I feel moral obligation to hold up marriage, your WAW dealt you a get out of jail free card, that being her infidelity, no one on heaven or earth can judge you for putting your WAW aside.

At this point, I am NOT interested in having my wife back. You are correct, she cheated on me. It took me a while to get over her but I have finally seen the light. It is simply amazing how she is acting after I let go. If I took her back now, how could I ever trust her again? I waited for 6 months. I forgave her initially and then she repeated her behavior. WTF is that?

I am trying to look at the positives here. I am young. I have my daughter. On top of that, since I've changed my attitude I've been having a great time. I've even met a beautiful 45 year old woman that is interested in me! No relationship yet--I am still married of course. That is just one instance of a woman being interested in me. At the graduation dinner I went to last night I had several women flirting with me. Why did it take this long to get this point is the real question. Probably because I couldn't or wouldn't let go. Of course there was a long history and I have a child with her. I've had a lot of time to think--this woman cheated on me with 4 different men--ugh! When I see her, I cannot help but think of that. NOT attractive at all. All this while I was deployed to Iraq providing for my family. Do I deserve that? HELL NO!!!!

I am not interested in a woman who chooses to be with other men after 15 years of marriage. I could see if she had a one night stand with someone, came clean and was remorseful. She had a relationship with a married man, discarded her family and has NO remorse(or at least has not shown any that I can see).

Life is way too short to put up with someone like that! I cannot wait to find someone that wants to be with me because they are excited to be with me not someone who feels obligated to be with me because we have a child together. No thanks..