At this point, my H has been gone since June and is living in an apt. 3 minutes from our home. His A started in March and OW has left her H to be with mine. She is 10 years younger than H and has no kids. He expressed a desire to be "free" before he left. He often spends nights with OW and he is seeing our kids once a week and has now started taking them to his apt every other Sat. night. OW has not met kids - or kids have not mentioned it.
Two nights ago, H expressed interest in how I am doing emotionally. Basically, I get the idea that he is feeling guilt and wants to alleviate it by showing he cares about me and the girls. He keeps hugging me (now I should say that he is a very touchy feely kind of guy and would hug just about anyone), and kissing me in a brotherly way. He is not showing any other physical attraction towards me.
I am trying my best to lay low with regards to the A and do not bring OW into any of our conversations. H seems to really like when I call (which I hardly ever do), and is expressing that he wants us to talk more. However, like I said, seems to be related more to guilt than R building.
He often gets teary eyed and wants to know "what happened to us?" and laments that he is no longer in love with me. H is very conflict averse and is not likely to file for D, but instead keep me in limbo for a while. (unless OW pressures him).
So, should I contact more... should I go dark?
HIW M 35 H 37 D 5, D 2 Married 1996 Dating 1992 Met 1988 EA/PA started March 2009 Bomb 6/16/2009 Separated 6/23/2009
