I think I haven't worded my posts right. And I speak a different language with my kids (raising them bilingual), so I am translating here... What you say Coach is how I tell it to them. By saying they were bad at school, I meant they had to pull cards at school or got sent to the principal at school. I have made it clear to them that if that happens, they will be in trouble at home also. And in trouble at home means no TV and to bed early. When they have been "on green" a week, we go do something fun in the weekend.
Your comment did make me stop and think about this a bit more though. Every once in a while, I do get angry with them (what parent doesn't), but I calm myself down very quickly and make it a point to explain to them calmly that it's because they did this or that and that now we won't get to do X. In light of your comments, it would have been better to omit the angry part and go straight to the consequence part. That makes sense! Thanks for that!
