Coach = Well maybe emotionally and financially he is. Mostly emotionally. The fact that I engage and not detach allows him to kill my sense of self. How do I not do this?
So the answer is no. So figure out where you are. What resources do you have? What's the plan for moving forward?
Detaching is just letting go of the outcome. Stop being afraid of divorce (it won't kill you). You control your thoughts, actions, and feelings. Think thru it - he is going to serve you with D papers. How are you going to handle it? You don't control whether he does or not. He expects you to be scared, hysterical, undone and crushed. That's how he controls you. Change the dynamic. Be strong, confident and wise. Then see who gets scared.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
