Hey Hey lets play nice. I am sorry OT offended you Lanz.
Like I said before we are all here to help each other. We all have different life experiences. I take a little about what OT says. And take a little about what Yoyo says and a little about what rob says and all the slapping Saffie gives me and use some and toss the rest.
We all have different tastes and turn on's
One thing that OT did say and I have experienced it myself was that Two people can say the exact same thing and get opposite responses...even now once in a while wife lets her guard down and lets herself relax at least in her mind sexually. Just the there day I was talking about doing yard work around our house and how I needed to do some over MIL house I told her:

I am going to do the work around here first and then I will do you mom.

She smiled and said “you’re going to do my mom huh”

I am on my way to the book store to see if they have PM but my desk is starting to look like a marriage counselors with all of these “help your marriage” books
Lanz,
I do not think that OT was accusing you of “seeing” OW. But after talking with some ladies here. Looking at “stuff” on the computer is just as bad to them as seeing another woman.
That is one thing that wife brought up in the beginning of all of this. She said “well you look at stuff on the computer” I told her I can hit the delete key and it’s gone. Can you do that with the OM?
Yes Lanz women see things a little different than us guys do.

Take care everyone it is going to be a great day


XOXOXO
Doc


And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know