Hi H,
Here's the post I was talking about that I liked by Poet: (still don't know how to work the quotes thing!)

"Now hear this:
Trust yourself. Quiet your thoughts as best you can. And, listen to the still small voice in your ear, to see if you can find your own answer to your question. Often that voice is God talking to you. Pay attention and pray!

That's my best advice. And, take care of you!
poet"
Here's the link:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1780149&page=12

I dont' mean this as pushing prayer. I am really not a religious person, but believe in God. It comforted me, so I send in case it may do the same for you. If it's not your thing no worries. I think sometimes just stopping the madness of thinking ALL the time about it helps me. Thanks to Poet for writing this & I hope she doesnt' mind my quoting her! Wishing you strength,
LFA