#1....Get home MUCH later. Even if you have to drive around endlessly for a couple of hours. Be home later than he is.
When you DO come in late.... be on your cell phone.. talking.. loud enough for him to hear, but acting like you are whispering too loud, but not loud enough for him to hear exactly who you are talking to or if it is a woman or a man....... a little belly laugh for effect now and then as you open the fridge.. walking with phone in hand talking, laughing, giggling....
I used both of these tactics. Sometimes I'd just drive to the beach and watch the moonlight on the ocean, or take a book and go for coffee or a glass of wine, you get the idea. I found all sorts of free events and Meetup groups to attend...and I always stayed out later than H did.
The phone thing...yep, did it. I had a friend in collusion with me that I met during this time...he was really funny and thought H was a doofus (and thought I should just dump his butt), and he was always up to chat. When it was too late or he wasn't available, I pretended to be on the phone. I'd come in to the house a little too loud (H was sleeping in the downstairs bedroom at the time), having a conversation, giggling...I know he heard it.
I also used IM if I happened to be home and H was there too. My friends would post the most outrageous things to get me to crack up, and so I was just focused on that and not on H...and he noticed how much fun I was having and how I wasn't paying any attention to him.
My H isn't one to ask outright, but I saw the wheels turning in his head. It was honestly when I'd developed a crush on someone I'd met and was reevaluating how long I was going to stick with a H who was emailing/calling OW on our anniversary that H suddenly recommitted. I was feeling the buzz of attraction...and I'd come to the conclusion that with or without H, I'd be just fine and dandy and happy. I had completely detached...and I think H sensed that. Scared him a little bit.
Since your friends are going to be at the show, why not have them take some pictures of you? You could conveniently leave them out or up on your computer when H is around. Heck, I'd choose one I really liked, frame it, and put it in your personal space to remind myself how lovely I really am.
Gucci is right: men like the chase. I still make my H chase me a bit because that's what keeps it interesting. We just returned from a mystery trip he'd planned for us where he just gave me a packing list and the dates we'd be gone...didn't find out until we'd arrived where we were going. That's him trying to please and impress me.
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Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
