I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow - part 2

[1853dave]

I stopped by the kids' dance studio to pick them up for dinner yesterday... W was still there talking to her mom friends. As expected, they glanced up at me and then carried on with their avoidance. I said "Hi" but got no response. Typical. D4 got up and asked me to sit with her and mommy, so I did. W actually looked up and said Hi to me, but that was it.

Just like with my first divorce a long time ago, the family friends choose sides and they all alienated me. They treated me last night like I had just got out of prison. Funny, though, their kids are all nice to me!

As we were leaving the studio, I saw W still standing there gabbing with her friend - the one who helped her hide credit cards from me this past year - and I can only imagine the venom spewing from her mouth.

After the kids and I had spent time together, I brought the kids home. W must have been watching out for me because she met us outside as I pulled up. I'm certain that was her tactic to prevent me from entering the home. I told her "Don't worry, I wasn't going to go inside anyway..." She didn't say anything.

I guess we're back to the "her verses me" routine. The stupid attys are both chomping at the bit to wrap this up. As soon as they get things rolling, I'm afraid there's no stopping it.

This ENTIRE thing is stupid and unnecessary. But, we are all going to pay the price.

I feel so sad for my children. I've tried so hard for them to keep the family together. They have absolutely no say in this. They want us to stay together - they have told me so. I'm so sad for what we are all losing, and I feel like I have failed them.

All I can hope for is that when W gets hit with the reality of the divorce - having to sell the condo, having to work a job, maybe having to quit school, a multitude of scheduling and daycare problems, her car is about to break down, having to rent some crappy place because she can't afford something better... Maybe that will be her 2x4 to the side of her head.

I hope it's sooner than later, but I am certain that she will wake up one morning and think to herself "What in the he** was I thinking?!?"

You'd think her friends, who are supposed to be supportive of her, would point this out and maybe tell her to have a second look at things before she plunges the family into poverty for her own selfish reasons.

I just don't get it.