New Post for Wifey

[Dia]

Here's how I would do it:


H,

I just spoke with the Heating Co. about the pre-buy program, and I'd like your help with it.

Over the past few heating seasons we've used just over 600 gallons of propane. The pre-buy price is $1.699 per gallon right now. If I were able to buy 600 gallons right now the heating season would be just over $1,000. I have $600 of that saved. I would like you to help with with the other $400

I would have peace of mind with not expecting huge heating bills over the winter, and I could pay you back over time.

The gentleman from Heating Co. is sending me a contract so please think it over and let me know.
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I took some of the emotion out and made it sound a little more "act as if".

BTW, I think you should avoid using the words "count on you". These could well be annoying because it will set in his mind that if he says no, he's someone who can't be counted on. It may feel like a set up.

Hope this helps!

[Coach]

I've decided to pre-buy the propane for our heating season. Would you be able to help me with this? I have the majority of the money saved. Please let me know.

Works. Have the details ready if needed. Are you expecting to pay him back? Have a plan if so.
Doesn't your husband like to do things for you (AOS)? Tell him some cut and stacked firewood would be nice too.

[The Wifey]

Thanks for everyone's perspective. Coach - no firewood needed, even our extra wall heater is propane. : )

I'm going with:

I've just spoken with Heating Co. about the pre-buy progam and decided to pre-buy the propane for our heating season. Would you be able to help me with this? I have the majority of the money saved. Please let me know.

I did keep it brief - and will fill in the details if he asks.

Thank you so much, everyone.

[Dia]

I like the shorter version best. I kept mine long only because you said he would want the details.

[The Wifey]

Thanks. No response yet. I have so much to get done today. I will check back later.

[Goodfight]

Wifey,

I like what Coach told you to do. I totally agreed. Glad you put it that way. Hope H responds and gives you what you need. Mine still has not offered and we have bills in both of our names....he just figures, I guess the child support is covering everything. I wish it was.

If you get a chance could you and some of the others on here jump over to my thread please? I wrote H a letter and there have been things going on within the last week which I would like some input on.

Thanks

[The Wifey]

I will check on you Lost.

H responded and asked me to meet him for dinner. Said he would help but wanted the details. His email was even more cryptic than mine had been. "Yes, lets meet and talk details."

By the way, my C felt it was manipulative not to put the details in the email knowing he wants details for everything. Almost like fishing, lets see if he bits.

I was on the fence about it but leaning that way. Still, no matter now, he agreed to help me and was even surprised I'd been able to save the $600 I had while unemployed. H also insisted on paying me back for buying our S's textbooks for school.

This little extra will help. It is going to be an expensive month. Not only am I doing the pre-buy program, school taxes are due this month, I just started back at grad school and had to buy my own books, plus I have other bills to pay.

H is going on another little trip this weekend on the motorcycle. I told him to just be safe. I am pet-sitting for my parents and sister, so my weekend will be close to home. Just as well, because I already have 5 chapters to read for school!

I am looking forward to Monday though, my FIL and I decided to steam clams during our Labor Day picnic. H has to work Monday, as his university always starts on the Labor Day holiday. Luckily my S (that goes to the same university) doesn't have his first class until the next day. If H makes it to his parent's to have some goodies that will be fine, but something tells me we are going to have a fun picnic with or without him.

[Coach]

H responded and asked me to meet him for dinner. Said he would help but wanted the details. His email was even more cryptic than mine had been. "Yes, lets meet and talk details."

By the way, my C felt it was manipulative not to put the details in the email knowing he wants details for everything. Almost like fishing, lets see if he bits.

I was on the fence about it but leaning that way. Still, no matter now, he agreed to help me and was even surprised I'd been able to save the $600 I had while unemployed. H also insisted on paying me back for buying our S's textbooks for school.

That was a win-win. You asked for and got help, plus anotther invitation to meet. You husband got the info he wanted, a opportunity to compliment you on your resourcefulness and he pursued a little. Play a little hard to get now.

How is SMW doing?

Enjoy the long weekend.

Cheers

[Goodfight]

Good for you Wifey. Glad he is willing to help you out, hope mine is too. I have to send letters since he doesn't have a computer.

Plus I didn't know that you are in contact with FIL, that's great.

My in-laws don't even call the kids otherwise call me or invite us anywhere. I guess my H told them lies on why he left, so they got too involved and like I said before they are all for the D.

I'm so happy for you. I wrote back to you on my thread, so if you get a chance hop over. You give great advice, and wanted your input on the letter I wrote to my H about bills.

Enjoy your picnic, and hope H comes as well.

[K4D]

You are doing good KJ. Keep it up. You are playing things exactly as you should. One lego at a time. Keep the faith. The invitations are out there, but you are not pressuring him. I like it very much.

Kevin