My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[dday101798]

Agreed, "re-inventing", not the way to go, learned that one first hand. Rather, finding yourself, who you were and incorporating what you've learned on this adventure and make your old self a better and improved version, the way to go.

Let's face it, M or a long term R for that matter, changes you, you mold yourself into a pattern that worked the other person involved, and now through the unfortunate circumstance, you find youself sitting out there trying to figure how to go on with life as this 'other' person you modified yourself into for a R that is no longer there.