My W has made a few comments over the past several weeks about hurting me, breaking my heart, expecting me to be mad at her when she leaves, etc...Each time I’ve assured her that I accept this (contacting a lawyer & filling out the D paperwork should have convinced her of that) and that I’m fine. It’s almost as if she doesn’t believe me or is “disappointed” I’m not crushed. Does that make any sense?
Yes, it makes sense because I heard that same stuff. I'm not sure what it is...I think some WAWs leave still having feelings for the LBS, to some degree, and don't want to see them hurt. I also believe that there is a certain amount of disappointment that we are able to dust ourselves off and move forward, almost like, "well he couldn't have loved me too much if he's handling it THIS well." But the truth remains that we can't own how they choose to interpret our actions. We can't own any disappointment they may feel that we are moving on. To my eye you do the things that put you in position to be someone your wife chooses to come back to, while putting yourself in the position to have a fulfilling life without them should she continue on the present course.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
