H won't be home when I am getting ready to go, so would I handle it the same way when I get home later in the night? Should I ask D to not tell H where I am as he will definitely ask her, I can guarantee that.
#1....Get home MUCH later. Even if you have to drive around endlessly for a couple of hours. Be home later than he is.
Tell the daughter only the information that you would want to get filtered back to him. Nothing more. You want her to honestly have to say "that is all she told me"...
Just tell her..."I am going to start modeling"...(or something to that effect)
I would recommend another tactic that has great success...
When you DO come in late.... be on your cell phone.. talking.. loud enough for him to hear, but acting like you are whispering too loud, but not loud enough for him to hear exactly who you are talking to or if it is a woman or a man....... a little belly laugh for effect now and then as you open the fridge.. walking with phone in hand talking, laughing, giggling....
then hang up the phone and go to bed.. don't even mention a word.. go about your business....
mystery... who is she talking to?....
if he asks later.... "I told daughter to tell you I decided to start modeling, didn't she tell you?"....
then drop it.. no big deal... go about your business.. you aren't even thinking about him.... (he will hate that)
just a couple of ideas for you... some of them are the very things I have had women do to me or other men that I can tell you worked like a charm... (of course I never let on that I was watching intently out of the corner of my eye)
