In that sense, no. She was always in control. I used to joke and call her my social director, because she always made plans for us. She also did the bills, etc. I almost always went along with what she wanted because it worked for us, or so it seemed. I think now she was looking for me to take charge once in a while, especially when it came to our financial difficulty. So, she always got her way, and for the most part it was what I wanted anyway. I realize now that I should have tried to get my way more often on the few times we disagreed instead of giving in. Sandi asked in her last post what it was that I did to hurt her so badly, and this is it. It came to a point when our financial status was dire. After a few years of being pretty laid back on small issues, they built up for her, and what pushed her over the edge was that I didn't step up to the plate and look for a second job or try to get overtime at my regular job. Her first marriage ended when her husband didn't get a job at all, never mind a second job, and they filed for bankruptcy and then divorced. EB, I read your last post on your thread. I am so sorry you are going through this. I feel I am not far behind you. If there is no forward movement on our Retrouvaille weekend, I may be in your position the only difference being that I might be the one to pull the trigger. Living like this with my wife as barely a friend, not to mention no intimacy even though we are in the same bed, is getting old. I am praying and pulling for you, buddy.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
