Thanks for checking in. I went back home to sort thru moms affairs. I am back "home" now and things are okay.
I am having trouble on the "trust" front but that's to be expected.... nothing that he has done new... just old baggage. I long for the day where it's not thought about.
I seem to try to give it over but it keeps bouncing back... Haha
Work in Progress... he's happy as long as I don't want any deep talking done(about R)that stresses him out. But I like to talk about things... he doesn't. Working on that.
We'll see how the fall goes.
How are you doing?
Blessings....
Hi again dear sandycay,
How wuz the 'soting out of your mom's affairs'. Hope you were able to get most of it handled. Where was she living at the end of her life. Do you have a home to take care of selling? Whatever the case, I am sure it is all pretty hectic so I hope you don't have too much more to have to deal with. Any sibblings to assist you with it all?
"he's happy as long as I don't want any deep talking done(about R)that stresses him out. But I like to talk about things... he doesn't."
I have to say that I got a chuckle over this. That is because from where I sit, this far and away epitomizes the 'conflict' of gender socio type stuff. The key is sandy that you have to trick the guy into these kinda talks. I shouldn't have to provide to many more instructions in this area as you women pretty well know how to be tricky IMO. But briefly, what I mean by that is to alternate the medium. SOmetimes make your "talk" be in the form of a written note, ...try to break a talk like this down into bite sized pieces and make sure to include some kinda semi-straight forward type of question in your R chat for him to be able to feel apart of the talk and not just be the receiver of your talking if he so chooses.
Be creative with it and in so doing it keeps things off balance and fresh in the approach. That way 'us' guys don't just look at it as just another one of them usual typical R talks that we have to endure.
Hope your autumn is a great one.
I am doing well. I have not had much to say on my own thread. I was getting tired of putting updates on there maybe I will reconsider that ..idk. There is maybe a small part of me that feels nearly guilty to be mentioning that things are smoothing out and progressing decently (being fairly modest ..to an extent)between myself and my darling.
SOme quick highlights before I head off to fly for my :20 daily morning flight (such a long grueling work day I know ..haha)
We are spending plenty of w/e together and by the end of them we haven't gouged each other's eyes out (so to speak ..of course lol). Those w/e's together are always in hotel rooms until we tackle the issue of getting our own place as she nor I have our own place but rather live with friends ..on the cheap. So that kinda stinks for now anyway. In a milestone (the first of those since about the beginning of the year, she brought up us getting back into counseling and asked if I would be interested. I nearly dropped the phone when I heard her say it. The ILY's are plentiful and the actions that support it are coming along nicely as well. So, things are clearly trending upwards
Got to go. Have a great w/e. I will be spending mine in Pittsburgh with my folks at the National Welsh Gymanfa Ganu. I am a proud Welshman. If you care to know of it, it can be searched. In short ..lots of singing. Funny coming from me ...
