Hi Sandi, thanks for your thoughts. I understand what you are saying, however I don't think either thing applies to me. I used to tell my W daily that I loved her. I wouldn't let a day go by without saying those words to her. Also, I constantly told her how beautiful she is (she really is). And I would very often tell her that she meant everything to me. As far as my parents are concerned, I do have a great relationship with them, but I always put W first. One thing I do agree with is that I didn't share my feelings with her, but then again, she never really shared hers with me. I think that is the main reason we are where we are. We don't communicate well. Even now we don't. I plan on opening up completely on the Retro weekend. I hope she is able to open up as well. When I think back to when we were first together, I remember that it was some time after I began telling her I loved her before she said it back. I know she felt it, I could tell. But she had a hard time actually saying. It's kinda the reverse of what you would think, right? The girl trying to get the guy to say I love you? Anyway, seeing my IC was like a shot in the arm. I feel a bit stronger and able to do what is necessary now. I don't know if this means anything, but normally (now) my W communicates through texting. Last night she called me from her office (she had to go in for some kind of training) to ask how the boys were. Just something I noticed. Three day weekend coming up. Plenty of time to apply my new DB resolve. I will keep everyone updated.
7 days until Retrouvaille.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.