UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[Eskimo Nell]

Morning Rabbit - actually, I reckon you could get away with saying Evening to me now ... it's ten to five in the pm here!

I hope that the interview was a formality too ... thing is it's only a temp job until December for maternity cover - but sometimes those ladies don't come back, do they? I hope that would be the case, if I get lucky enough!! I hear you on the Friday thing and the one interviewer actually apologised to me for wearing jeans ... it's 'dress down Friday' in the office!

Glad that you found some kind words in what I posted to you. It's always nice to give a 'gift' to our sisters here because I really do believe that we should tell the truth about the situations - and that often comes with words which are not so nice to deliver. Means there's a good balance then.

The whole point of this board is perspective and support, so it means that we have to tell the truth as we see it and I think that most people are very good in accepting that. Not many are out to deliberately cause pain to others - we are all hurting far too much for that, otherwise we wouldn't be here, right?

Yes, your son's message was a bit out of left field for you and yet, you are now having time to prepare - for what, we don't know but if you prepare for the worst, that should be a help when the next bomb gets exploded.

You say that you wish that you had the book two and a half months before your H left ... I echo this, wholeheartedly. I recommend that all married couples buy one - and 5LL too! Like you, I also wish that my H had had more in depth talks with me before he mentally packed his bags ... he says that he did but I know that he didn't. He may have felt it was so but if it was, why was I so blindsided and devestated at the huge shock that it was?


I would love to have a good long soak in the tub Rabbit but you have evidently never seen the standard Aussie bath!! You would struggle to get a 5 year old in them! The water shortages demand that we all conserve as much water as we possibly can on a routine basis and so baths have evolved over the years in to these tiny little piddly things. You can get in and wash but nothing for a bit of pamper and luxury. For that we have hot tubs/spas but my H in his wisdom turned ours off before he left and it's now stone cold. OK, I could put it back on but it's not any where near half the enjoyment of sitting out in in on your own. I really would feel like Billy No Mates then!!