Nell, I hear you, I hear you. I think the same thing. Especially when my h's ow wrote on his FB wall 'back off he's mine'. I just thought really? You didn't have any respect for the fact that he was married to someone else when you got with him. Cheeky cow (because I can't say worse things!)! Also, try not to put your h on a pedestal, it was his choices too.
I know it is hard, but you know that he is having an affair but that is it. You don't know what their relationship is like? Try not to dwell. You don't aren't able to measure his feelings for her or for you. Honestly, it isn't worth your effort trying and feelings change all the time.
