good news on the job front. Having a job will give you focus and greater independence.
I can so relate to your last paragraph. I definitely went through all of that Nell, especially as H walked away from the kids. The down side for me was that I tried to rescue the situation. That did absolutely nothing for me emotionally. I think eventhough this is incredibly painful right now it is the preferred option. I have invested so much time and emotion and I'm really not any further along!
H just came by the house and was talking to S. I heard his voice but sat quietly in the study.