No, find her. You have so much to give without changing who you are. It seems to me that you had reinvented yourself trying to be the perfect W for your XH. He wasn't worth it because all he seemed to care about is himself. Wait until his true self emerges and what poor OW has to deal with. He's happy now while things are going his way. I wonder how she will react when he wants what she doesn't? Oh well! Her problem now.
You are entitled to keen over your wounds, but don't let it go on too long. There be exciting life out there. And so much to discover that you were unable to do because you were tied down.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
