Summer 2009

[Between Tears]

Hi Snodderly,

S is here, although not receiving any support from his Father. S is also without a vehicle, and Dick has done his best to assure himself a straight shot into S's heart. Dick knew I'd pay the school registration which was $368 plus, purchase the supplies he needed for school, $100, pay for clothing and such, along with giving S the money he needs for spending.... this put a financial hurt on me.

Just found out, Dick is going to send S a one way ticket to Cali, so S can take that old pick up truck Dick purchased to fix up for S, two years ago... anyway, the rest of Dick's offer is that S go out there to drive the truck back here.... yet, behind the scene, I know the truck hasn't been worked on and still doesn't run...

S sees a way to get a vehicle, and then after football, he can get a job, so he can help me when he moves in, and still have enough spending money to go out on the weekend.

I really wish Dick would stop, but I also know Dick doesn't loose and he does his best work when under pressure. People are slowly begining to figure him out around here, and I believe the reason he is working harder to get and keep both children in California.

His anger is intense, I feel it, even from here. He's been able to brainwash D and soon he'll have S back too.

[Between Tears]

Okay, here we go again, saddly to say, it's by the numbers too!

D has a new cell phone! Nope, I don't have the number, as it was when S went to California. D has been promised a new car... although she has a decent amount of her own money to put down on it.

D no longer talks to me. D doesn't talk to anyone back here except for one girl, yet D didn't recognize her number when this girlfriend called..... D was with friends at the time, and quickly ended the call.

This is the last news I've heard about D.....

As for S, no support as of yet, although he's not taking Dick up on his offer either. I hear exhausion in his voice.. he's tired of all the stress and only wants to come home, but the "ever so wise" judge will prevent that until S turns 18.

Today, I could feel me returning the anger to Dick... I've been feeling his for so long, I decided I'd had enough... I don't like sending or returning bad vibes, for they only come back, however, I felt like I had sucked enough up, that I had to shake them loose, and back they went to dick.

Next Wednesday I sit with my Attorney's. We are going to be filing Contempt charges..... I wonder what this will bring. Obviously, not countering on the court hearings haven't done much, except allowed Dick to look like the injured party. Maybe showing the Judge he's no saint just might help.

I'll fill you in as soon as I know more.

Have a great Labor Day Weekend!

[BeingMe]

Ah, BT, hope things work out in your and the children's favour this time. You have been so valiant through all this.

Take care.

[Between Tears]

Ahh, BeingMe,

Valiant? No, Stupid is a better description. I've white knuckled this whole trip, and it seems now my knuckles are stuck in that position!

It seems as though Mr. Dick is falling apart.....

On his departure, he allowed someone else to see the "Mr. Hyde" side of him as he screamed at S....

Dick has paid no support since he left, not a penny towards registration for school, no money has paid for lunches, and now it seems the school may become involved.

The Mother where my son is staying (part of the time for the court) texted Dick allowing him to know she contacted his attorney to notify them she had not received any support for S. The attorney told her to contact Dick with this message: "Tell him to deposit the money in S's bank account and notify them on Tuesday."

The Mother texted Dick with the message, Dick's reply: "Go ahead and caller her, A**H*le". The he texted again "Then what?"

The Mother forwarded the texts to me to bring with me to the attorney's office on Wednesday....

Looks like Dick is beginning to loose it.... He's beginning to drop his mask of false provado. I have a witness, someone else who has seen Dick for the man he is, and it is truly a relief.

Okay, so it's only one person who knows I'm not crazy... but it's one that I didn't have two months ago.

As for D, well, right now she is lost, now not even contacting her best friend. I know, it all takes time and she will return, I have been here before and know the steps, yet, I can't help but miss her, my baby girl.

Well, hope you all had a wonderful weekend.... I worked all weekend, and remembered what it was like to have friends and famiy over for a cookout.... I really miss those days sometimes.

Take care

[job]

I'm sorry that things are such a mess. I'm glad to see Dick has lost it w/someone else. I hope that this woman will be there for you and your son. It's a very sad situation and one that has scarred everyone involved. Your d is a lost soul right now and it's going to take some time for her to come to realize what has happened. I'm praying she will wake up soon and see the situation for what it is.

Some day, you'll have those picnics once again.

Please take care of yourself.

[Between Tears]

Thank you Snodderly,

You are so kind and always have the right thing to say at the right time..

The scars are everywhere, not only within our family, but reaching out to our friends also. It's so sad to see D's friends upset because D hasn't called and has seemed to disapear from their lives too.

I'm just tired, not happy with this new job, wanting to start something, anything that is happier!

[Between Tears]

Today I had my meeting with my attorney's. We decided it was in our best interest to file for contempt. Dick believes he has complete immunity when it comes bad behavior, ignoring court orders and getting away with terrorizing S and myself, along with the mother of the house S stays in part of the time. We are going to at least attempt to stop his brash behavior.

The Hearing is scheduled (for now) on September 14, at 9:30 am. Now Dick and his attorney will probably provide some excuse to change the date, but for now, this is what I have.

I just wish I knew whether this was going to be good for D too. In my heart I had alread decided to let it rest, allow her the time she needed to see her Father for he man he is, and make her own decision when she wanted to come home. This Hearing is in complete conflict with what I had decided on, however, may be better for me/us in the long run considering the next two years. I will also bring to light some of Dick's behaviors and attitudes about the court rules.

I wish I felt more confident that I was doing the right thing.... but it's done now, and now I have to live with it.

Wishing you peace, love and prosperity!

[job]

You must have faith! You just might have something here w/filing for contempt. It may not get you the "bigger picture", but it's a start in the right direction.

I will put my faith in the man upstairs and pray that he will guide you on the 14th.

[Between Tears]

Hi Snodderly,

If nothing else, this is something different. I have not countered or filed contempt on anything Dick has done so far, and this might just be the reminder that he needs to let him know these court rules aren't just for me to abide, but for him too.

D is still in the angry/blaming mode, which still fits within the time frame that S had during his time with his Father. I'm not going to hold D to S's time frame, but it does give me a rough idea of what to expect. D could return extremely angry with me, as I need to prepare myself for this. That's IF the court or Judge decides Dick is in fact in contempt.

Yes, you are right, I need to have a little faith, and know things will work out for the best....

Take care of you!

[BeingMe]

Well, it might be a new experience for your XH, to see someone stand up for themselves against him. Good for you!

Take care.