WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

OOOOh Sandi laid the smackdown.

"If she wants to talk about it at a later date, that will be her initiative."

Nope it will be under YOUR terms. If she wants to talk about it, that's when you don't want to talk about it.

"Now if I can mess with her head a little bit to make her do a "What the heck?", even better."

Dude that's not detaching. Detaching is you don't even care about her so you don't even bother pushing her buttons.

I think I can see you setting yourself up again even with your denials.

Man - talk about a couple of kill joys :-(

I thought I did pretty good. She was wondering what was up and I didn't reply. I really think she is curious why I was in such a good mood. I wasn't in a good mood to make her curious, I just was. So even when she was texting, I didn't let it affect me. Now if she wasn't curious or anything like that, I wouldn't have cared either. Either way, I'm still feeling pretty good

I picked up my boys and on the way home we talked about what we were doing this weekend. We covered Fri, Sat and Sun. My 3 year old asked about going to the driving range. I said we could do that on Mon.

Then my 7 year old said that mommy told him they were going to be with her on Monday. I told him that Daddy isn't working on Monday and will be home so we can spend Monday together. I told him that we don't see each other as much as mommy sees them so that is what I want to do.

My 7 year old then said that was what he wanted to do as well. She had sent me an email earlier in the afternoon asking what was going on with Monday. I couldn't answer as I was driving. So I told him that when they talk to mommy tonite, to let her know. I did that not to avoid talking to her about it, but to "address" her email where she claimed our 7 year old said I wouldn't let him call her because he wanted to spend last Sunday with her and lied that she couldn't pick him up.

So we had a good soccer game. My 7 year old scored a goal and had 3 assist. We pretty much crushed the other team, even though we don't technically keep score. My 3 year old got to practice/warm up with the team (one of the perks of being the coach) so he had a blast as well.

On the way home back from soccer, they called their mom. I was worried as it rang so much I thought it was going to go to voice mail again, but she picked it up.

My 7 year old said immediately that they wanted to be with Daddy on Monday. I'm sure she was pissed, but I didn't care. She tried to sound all upbeat and sweet and said that was fine, whatever they wanted. Yeah right - they wanted their family to stay together and not having a mom that was running around their dad, but that's another issue. I don't sound bitter now do I?

Anyway, she talked with my 7 year old for a bit and then asked if my 3 year old wanted to talk. He said no

She then said goodnite and goodbye.

We got home and did the bath, play time, books and video thing before they went to bed.

They were both exhausted but they seemed so happy. It's great to be home with the boys. I still have the wedding pictures up so I did see them. It hurt me last week when I was here. Now I don't feel anything about them. Very odd. Is this normal?!?!?