Things have backtracked a bit since my last post. I will fill in details later, but basically she has gone back to the other room and is being her 'normal' self (cold/distant). There was a flare-up over something my daughter said to her that was the catalyst for reversing the momentum, and she also spent the weekend at toxic-friend's house which also contributed I believe.
I have continued with my attitude of whatever happens, happens, etc and just acting as-if for now.

However, I want to get feedback on something specific. I caught her talking to OM again back in May/early June and confronted her at that time. This is when she started sleeping in other room. At the time I assumed her cell phone was being used for this since she was not showing me the bill.

She now shows me the bills starting with July and going forward but won't show me prior months. I assumed it was because she didn't want me to see how much she talked to OM then, even though I had proof and had already busted her. I figured I couldn't control what happened int he past anyway, but I would use the bills as proof and confirmation that things were moving in the right direction going forward.

I just realized that she had been using a pre-paid phone for this after reviewing my prior evidence. Therefore, showing me the cell phone bill proves nothing.

I haven't confronted her about it yet. I was thinking my options were:

a) do nothing and keep ignoring her/OM
b) now that I know she has another way to communicate, tell her I know about this and don't approve
c) ask her to show me pre-paid phone/etc.

(c) probably doesn't help since she can always get a different phone.

On the other hand, she may have stopped communicating with him since I have cut off the convenient ways to talk to OM (her car and our house). I suspect I don't know the whole story (again).




Last edited by tryingtilDorR; 09/04/09 12:12 AM.
ME/XW:47
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