Rabbit Again, I have to (sadly) agree with Stuck. The fact that there is a distinct possibility that there is an ow in the picture has to be faced. It's (again) what most of us here are facing, even if at first it does not appear to be that way.
If anyone ever told me my H would have an ow, I would have called them a liar. I NEVER EVER believed that he would have done such a thing as he always told me that if I had an OM, he would shoot me first and then track down OM and kill him. That's how strongly he felt about fidelity and infidelity.
I'm just erring on the side of caution here but I do think that it would pay dividends to prepare yourself that it could be a possibility. If you are ready for it, you won't get blindsided when, and if, H drops the bomb. Your reaction will be well thought out and that will blindside him!
Blokes are still immature well into their twenties (and some in their thirties), for my ten bobs worth! Again, I think that to sit your son down for a heart-to-heart will be the best that you can do right now. If he doesn't know how much his words are hurting you, then maybe offering him the scenario in which his GF leaves him and you play his current role may make him understand. This is not about him though, it's about you and H - your S is a man who no longer lives at home (right?) and he should be respecting your privacy and stay out of it. You know him best and only you will work out a way of getting this across to him.
Good luck - will check in with you later.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
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