Nobody knows what is going on in the MLC mind.

BUT.. if you actually listen to their words and stop defending yourself, you may find that they can be rather insightful.

They will figure out their own problems without your help.

They do not need for you to point out their issues or for you to tell them that they have rewritten history.

For now, they do not need you at all, because they are fully grown degenerative teenagers who know everything.

Give them their space.

Lay off the guilt trips.

Don't drag your kids into it.

And for God's sake work on your own "stuff".

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.