Hi - chiming in here - I just want to applaud you - you and your H were able to communicate - you were wondering about where he was at, emotionally temperature taking - and he told you flat out how he felt, what he needed ,and admitted he hadn't done that in the past. You heard him and gave him what he needed.
Good job! The best you could do! You are both really trying. That is awesome.
If you read my thread, you may find similarities too. "I'm new and wondering if this works" Although I never fully posted my story, after reading yours, it's practically identical. If you want details, I'll happily share them. But we have a lot in common.
All the best to you - and keep working on finding that inner peace.
