Lola-I have read a lot of the MLC postings and have really confirmed that is what my wife is in. I came to this page more because I wanted the tested veterans more than anything else. I know that I will soon be separated and will have to deal with anger when it arrives. Yes...MLC is special and some rules don't apply, but coming up with which ones do takes time and sadly...a lot of pain.
Searching-There definitely is no "best" thing to do in my situation. I think the oddity of the situation is the main reason why I have never had many responders in the past. Even experienced DB'ers are truly "WTF"...I will go into more detail later in this post if I have time. The gist for me is there is a distinct difference between "inaction" and the "inability" to act. If my finances were different, she would be gone long ago. Since I technically can't kick her out....she has to go on her own free will. Which she is trying to do. Trust me...I have been at this knowingly for over 1.5 years. I have tried suggestions from Puppy and Forrest...I have tried being friends tactics from others...nothing has worked.
My Wife's history-
Mother-Sweet lady who suffers from depression and is highly critical. She is hard to talk with and has an opinion about everything..divorced father and never got remarried
Sister-Younger and suffers from depression regularly. Nice girl, but is very self centered and blames everybody else for her problems
Dad-Left when wife was 12...had enough of mom. Married a woman who is 6 years older than wife and started new family. Acknowledges wife and siblings, but is more focused on new family. Hard to describe relationship with kids...more like he did enough to be a dad, but nothing more
Older brother (and big key)-Tormented family as child. Wife reports of him destroying toys, stealing her belongings, etc..etc. To this day lives in his car and as made nothing of his life. My wife can't stand being in the same room as him. Sometimes I almost wonder if there was some sexual abuse, but there was definitely sexual and physical abuse.
I will continue with this later...I have four bored kids on my hands...lol
