Can you set some boundaries with your son? Tell him, you don't need or want to know, that it's hurtful, and that he's going to have to figure out how to navigate this being respectful to both of you. The R is your business.
Tell him you are working on yourself. Whatever happens, you are taking care of yourself. He doesn't have to know what your goals and desires are, you don't have to make this known. Just tell him you need him to be supportive as you get through this, and tell him what the boundaries are.
