I don't think I have any other choice other than to follow my gut.
In the end, that is your best bet. We here, can give advice, ideas, etc., but you're in the pit (as it were). You are surely walking a fine line and doing very well. But, I can see how frustrating this all must be for you.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim