Quote: but then it went back to the old 'excuses' routine from his side - too tired, not feeling good, too much to do the next day, etc, etc. One day, one night actually when we had sex because he gave in because I was crying
Yunno Lucy, the excuses sound so alike you sounded like me posting. What I would really like H to say instead goes something like this "Hon, I'm not sure why I have so little interest in sex lately (its not you), maybe its the meds I'm taking or the stress I am going through at work etc, I hope you can bear with it for a while. Please tell me if you can't and we will try to do something about it together. I know its important to you and so its important to me too and for our marriage."
Hmm.... if my H said something like that to me, well I could live without it for errr for 6 months. Just trying to be funny but really thats all I need to hear from hubby instead of "theres nothing wrong, only you think there's something wrong (for not having sex for 2 years)", "you're overeacting" and the list goes on. Now would somebody be so kind enough as to tell me how to achieve that level of communication with your spouse especially since this lack of intimacy has already become such a highly sensitive issue. I would be most grateful. LH
